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It's important to remember that domestic and family violence can happen in many ways.
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In this video, we talk about the different types of domestic and family violence so you can identify them.
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Domestic and family violence is not always physical violence or physical abuse.
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It can also be many different types of non-physical abuse and controlling behaviour.
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Often domestic and family violence involves both types of abuse, physical and non-physical, to hurt and scare or control you.
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No type of violence or abuse is ever OK and everyone has the right to be safe and to feel safe in relationships.
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Physical abuse Physical abuse is when someone hurts your body or tries to hurt you on purpose.
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They can also threaten to hurt or injure you to make you feel scared.
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They might hit, punch, kick, slap, pinch, burn or bruise you, try to choke or strangle you, shower you in cold water, prevent you from moving around freely or leaving, punch holes in walls or throw things at you, hurt or not feed your assistance animals or your pets.
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They might also take away, hide, break or not charge the things you need to move around or communicate.
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Emotional abuse Emotional abuse is when someone makes you feel scared, unsafe or bad about yourself by criticising, threatening or controlling you.
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They might yell, shout or swear at you and put you down, blame you or make you feel guilty about things that aren't your fault or that you have no control over.
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They might also gaslight you, making you question yourself, what you know and your experience of events.
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Control parts of your life you don't want them to control and not let you make decisions.
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Threaten to put you into aged care or disability care.
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They might also say they will hurt you or other people and things you care about, like the people you love or your assistants, animals or pets.
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Sexual abuse Sexual abuse is when someone forces you to do something sexual or to be part of something sexual when you don't want to.
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They might force you to have sex or do sexual things when you don't want to, even if you're in a romantic relationship with that person, Make you touch them or touch you in places you don't want to be touched, Hurt you on purpose during sex.
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Say you'll get in trouble if you don't have sex with them or if you tell people they make you do sexual things.
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It's important to remember that you don't need to have sex to experience sexual abuse.
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They might also show you sexual photos or videos you don't want to see, or take naked photos of you when you don't want them to.
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Financial abuse Financial abuse is when someone takes or controls your money in a way that you do not agree with and is not good for you.
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This can include money from your job, your NDIS funds, your Centrelink money, your bank accounts.
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They might not let you decide how to spend your money.
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Get angry when you spend money.
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Refuse to pay for items you need such as food, doctor's appointments, and medicine.
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Take money from your purse or your wallet or your bank account without telling you and not paying you back.
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Not let you get a job or earn your own money.
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They may prevent you from accessing education or say or do things that make it difficult for you to study or get to work.
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They might also force you to sign things you don't know about or stop you from accessing your bank accounts.
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Technology based abuse.
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Technology based abuse is when someone uses technology to control you, make you feel scared or unsafe, or make you feel bad.
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They might stop you from accessing your phone or computer, stop you from using communication aids or devices like a screen reader, abuse, or embarrass you on social media.
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They might look at your phone or e-mail or social media without your permission, or put pictures of you online without you saying that's OK.
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They may also use technology to stalk you, contact you too much, or follow you wherever you go.
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Social isolation.
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Social isolation is when someone stops you from seeing or contacting your friends or family, stops you from contacting or receiving the supports and services you need, and stops you from getting to important appointments, for example, medical appointments.
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They might control which friends or family you can contact or spend time with.
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Not let your friends or family visit you or phone you.
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Say mean things about your friends or family.
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Family all the time.
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Not let you have interests and hobbies that don't involve them.
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Not let you leave home or only let you go out if they go with you.
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Control when you can go out, where you go, or who you can go with.
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They might also make you feel bad about spending time with friends or family or leave you at home because it takes too long to help you get out of the house.
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Neglect Neglect is when you don't have the support to meet your basic needs.
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They might stop you from getting sleep, food, medical care or support services, stop you from having or using communication devices or mobility aids, not help you stay clean and hygienic, leave you in uncomfortable situations or physical positions, lock you inside a room or the house, ignore you when you need their help or attention.
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They might also stop feeding and caring for your pets or assistance animals, or keep your assistance animals away from you so you can't leave home by yourself.
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Identity based abuse Identity based abuse is when someone uses aspects of who you are to threaten or hurt you.
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This can include your race, gender, or sexuality.
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If someone is abusing your identity, they might use bad feelings about your identity as an excuse for violence or abuse.
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Make you feel confused, ashamed, or guilty.
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Demand you hide parts of your identity or choose which part of your identity is most important to you.
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Threaten to tell people about your identity or tell people about your identity.
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Domestic and family violence can also involve spiritual, cultural, or religious abuse to make you feel scared, unsafe, trapped, or controlled.
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Any type of domestic and family violence is never OK.
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If you think you're experiencing domestic and family violence, it's important you talk to someone you trust.
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Support is available and people are there to help you be safe.
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You can find out more at our website www.qld.gov.au/neverok.
